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PremierLeague-News.Com - For so many years, I’d been running away from what I felt was the responsibility to step up

Uk News Yikes, I've become the family unifier, dragging everyone together. How did that happen? United Kingdom news

PremierLeague-News.Com - For so many years, I’d been running away from what I felt was the responsibility to step up

Uk News  Yikes, I've become the family unifier, dragging everyone together. How did that happen? United Kingdom news
26 June 2022 - 11:00

PremierLeague-News.Com - Breaking Sport Transfer News ! Who is the heart of your family? You know, the person who always tries their hardest to make sure the whole extended brood stays connected, and attempts to ensure that everyone gets together at some point during the year.It’s never an easy feat when you come from a large family (as I do on both sides). But there always seems to be one person that makes the effort to ensure everyone feels connected – no matter how far away they are from each other.The older I’ve become, and especially since having the kids, I’ve increasingly realised that on my mum’s side of the family that person was definitely her. Deep down I think I’d always known that, but to accept this in my older years meant admitting that I’d failed somehow by not accepting the baton when she passed.But there are lots of personality traits that we get from our closest family members that we can be reluctant to accept – both the good and the bad. And I know that many of us spend a long time trying really hard to run away from them for various reasons.As children we sometimes spend a large proportion of our time trying not to be like our parents and desperately striving to become more individual. But then you grow up and realise that they are the traits that made you – and we take them on board like a form of osmosis, whether we like it or not.And there are of course those traits that none of us really wants to take on board, and then spend a lifetime trying to shake off. Everything from a mum’s love of clutter, a grandad’s lack of patience, a dad’s rush to judgement. We probably spend a lot of our teenage years promising ourselves that we won’t be like our parents, but a lot of us end up mirroring their behaviour without even realising it. It’s as though the genetic pull is harder than one’s determination. And then we have to work really hard to put that into reverse.So it was with that in mind that I chose to stop putting mine in reverse and just embrace it. My mum’s family is vast, and we cousins are all connected – but there’s a ton of us. Some of us are super close, some of us only manage a few catch-ups a year.It’s something that a small family never really has to worry about. But when your family is so large it can seem like a mammoth task in the midst of parenting and working.

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. My mum would be proud of me in adulthood in so many ways, but not taking on that baton from her for so long is something I suspect she would be disappointed about.More from OpinionPop songs are getting shorter, but it’s about a lot more than lower attention spans26 June, 2022I love teaching but feel I have no option but to strike25 June, 2022Labour's success in Wakefield wasn't just about tactical voting25 June, 2022So that’s how 32 of my cousins – including partners and kids – ended up in my house last weekend for dinner. And my goodness it was just fabulous. In fact, I genuinely felt like my mum had joined us for a little eavesdrop into how everyone was doing, and marvel at how this family – which wasn’t exactly small in the first place – had become even bigger and better.But as I watched all the first cousins reconnecting with those they hadn’t seen in a while, and all the second cousins getting to know each other, I can’t lie to you, I felt ashamed that something that had clearly meant so much to her I had let slip for so long. And the worst thing is I do know that I share that part of my mum’s personality – she made sure that she passed on that love of keeping people together.Still, I genuinely don’t know how my parents managed it. They had two large extended families, a vast friendship circle, and raised a family of three and worked full time and multiple extra jobs. But managed to keep everyone connected through dinners, gatherings, BBQs. It must have been a lot.For so many years, I’d been running away from what I felt was the responsibility to step up. I’d had to step up in so many other ways after she passed, and taking on something else felt almost overwhelming.However, having watched the mass gathering, the laughter, the jokes, the reminiscing, watching the cousins wind each other up… I was reminded that coming from a big family is also part of what shaped the person I became in adulthood. The traits I love the most about myself are connected to being one of so many. And I believe my mother knew that – and that’s why all of us staying connected meant so much to her.It’s taken me a while to get my head around it, but I get it. So I left the weekend with my voice hoarse from laughter, and my heart full of love.Charlene White is a presenter for ITV News and Loose Women

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