Manchester news Family of selfless builder who took his own life urge people to speak out Manchester united news

PremierLeague-News.Com - Thomas Geeling, 30, was found dead a week after he went missing from his Royton home.

Manchester news Family of selfless builder who took his own life urge people to speak out Manchester united news

PremierLeague-News.Com - Thomas Geeling, 30, was found dead a week after he went missing from his Royton home.

Manchester news  Family of selfless builder who took his own life urge people to speak out Manchester united news
13 May 2021 - 06:16

PremierLeague-News.Com - Breaking Sport Transfer News ! The family of a selfless young man who took his own life have urged people to speak to loved ones of they need support. Thomas Geeling, 30, was last seen just before 5pm on Sunday, December 6, driving his dad’s white Volvo near his Royton home. An inquest into the builder’s death at Bolton Coroner’s Court this afternoon heard that Tom had text his dad just an hour before he disappeared to say he’d be eating takeaway with them that night. The family grew increasingly concerned as they were unable to get hold of him, reporting him missing that evening. His body was tragically found on farmland in Lostock a week later. Dad James Geeling told the court that he’d helped police track down his son. He said: “We think he threw his phone out of the window as he was driving through Manchester. Read More Related Articles Inquest opens into death of teen Josiah Norman who was fatally stabbed in Salford Read More Related Articles Jordan Banks family pay tribute to 'our brightest star' after nine-year-old killed in lightning strike “We just kept calling it and after someone picked up we thought it must have been Tom but it was someone who’d found it. “Later I found there was a secondary tracker on the car and I found the location of the car. “We thought it had been stolen but told the police and then they started searching nearby.” Tragically, officers found Tom’s body around a mile away from the car a week after he was reported missing, on December 14. Thomas Geeling (Image: GMP) Tom had been struggling with poor mental health for a while, with his family trying to support him through the difficult situation. In 2015, things got even tougher for Tom, when a criminal allegation was made against him, leading to threats. No legal action was taken in regards to the allegation, but Tom did feel forced to move away because of the threats. He also started “self-medicating” with drugs in 2015, using cocaine and cannabis as a “coping strategy”. In 2017, Tom was diagnosed with depression, but the then-27-year-old told his family he didn’t want help from mental health professionals. Mr Geeling said: “He wouldn’t engage with any mental health professionals. “He felt that would stigmatise him and that was something in the future that would prevent him from moving on so we weren’t able to get help. Sign up for Oldham news updates direct to your inbox Keep up to date with the top stories on life in and around Oldham with the new free email newsletter from MyOldham. The MyOldham newsletter will go out weekly with a selection of our most popular articles, including the latest on the coronavirus pandemic and how Oldham is dealing with lockdown. Follow this link and select My Oldham News. We have many other newsletters that may interest you as well. “He did do some cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) not long before he died and that seemed to help. “That was very close to the time of his death and it appeared he was in quite good spirits, but obviously that was not the case.” Tom’s mental state appeared to improve in the few weeks before his death, after losing a “slightly estranged” uncle and struggling with the isolation of lockdown. His dad told the court that he didn’t think lockdown helped his son’s mental state, as he was unable to have any distractions other than work. In the week before his death, Tom grew increasingly paranoid, believing he was being watched and becoming upset with some family members. Mr Geeling added: “He thought he was being watched - you anticipate that’s a consequence of smoking cannabis and I said it was completely ludicrous. “He also found some notes I’d made after a family friend had asked for some advice and thought they were referring to him. “I got quite agitated with him which was extremely rare, but I was angry he was making those conclusions. “I had no idea how much he was really struggling.” Helplines and websites Samaritans (116 123) samaritans.org operates a 24-hour service available every day of the year. If you prefer to write down how you’re feeling, or if you’re worried about being overheard on the phone, you can email Samaritans at jo@samaritans.org , write to Freepost RSRB-KKBY-CYJK, PO Box 9090, STIRLING, FK8 2SA and visit www.samaritans.org/branches to find your nearest branch. For support for people feeling suicidal, if you are concerned about someone or if you are bereaved by suicide see http://shiningalightonsuicide.org.uk CALM (0800 58 58 58) thecalmzone.net has a helpline is for men who are down or have hit a wall for any reason, who need to talk or find information and support. They're open 5pm to midnight, 365 days a year. Childline (0800 1111 ) runs a helpline for children and young people in the UK. Calls are free and the number won’t show up on your phone bill. PAPYRUS (0800 068 41 41) is a voluntary organisation supporting teenagers and young adults who are feeling suicidal. Beat Eating Disorders: Beat provides helplines for adults and young people offering support and information about eating disorders. These helplines are free to call from all phones. Adult Helpline: 0808 801 0677, Studentline: 0808 801 0811, Youthline: 0808 801 0711. www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk Anorexia & Bulimia Care: ABC provide on-going care, emotional support and practical guidance for anyone affected by eating disorders, those struggling personally and parents, families and friends. Helpline: 03000 11 12 13. www.anorexiabulimiacare.org.uk/ Students Against Depression is a website for students who are depressed, have a low mood or are having suicidal thoughts. Bullying UK is a website for both children and adults affected by bullying studentsagainstdepression.org For information and links to charities and organisations that can help with substance abuse, visit https://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/drugs/ Tom came up to his dad shortly after the argument, apologising for his behaviour. That Sunday, December 6, the Geelings were getting ready to see their other son Matt travel to Belfast, whilst also preparing for an upcoming move. Tom was asked to head to the new house with his dad to pick out a room, but asked to go the next week instead. Later that day, he came into the family room and apologised for “being unpleasant” before hugging his parents and brother. He was in good spirits, and left the room, before later leaving the house. An emotional Mr Geeling told the court: “In hindsight, we think he was saying goodbye.” Assistant coroner for Manchester West, Stephen Teesdale, recorded a conclusion of suicide. He said: “I believe Tom could not see any improvement in his future.

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. “He did not wish to be a burden to the family and therefore alleviated, as he saw it, the burden to the family. “He was a young man who would have had a future, a bright future at that, but he didn’t see it that way.” Speaking after the hearing, Mr Geeling urged people to reach out for help if they needed it. He also asked people to consider supporting charities working together to prevent suicide - the biggest killer of men under 45. So far the family have raised over £5,000 for Papyrus in memory of Tom, helping the charity to prevent other deaths. Don't suffer alone and seek help For support for people feeling suicidal, if you are concerned about someone or if you are bereaved by suicide see http://shiningalightonsuicide.org.uk Samaritans (116 123) samaritans.org operates a 24-hour service available every day of the year. If you prefer to write down how you’re feeling, or if you’re worried about being overheard on the phone, you can email Samaritans at jo@samaritans.org , write to Freepost RSRB-KKBY-CYJK, PO Box 9090, STIRLING, FK8 2SA and visit www.samaritans.org/branches to find your nearest branch. CALM (0800 58 58 58) thecalmzone.net has a helpline is for men who are down or have hit a wall for any reason, who need to talk or find information and support. They're open 5pm to midnight, 365 days a year. Childline (0800 1111 ) runs a helpline for children and young people in the UK. Calls are free and the number won’t show up on your phone bill. PAPYRUS (0800 068 41 41) is a voluntary organisation supporting teenagers and young adults who are feeling suicidal. Beat Eating Disorders: Beat provides helplines for adults and young people offering support and information about eating disorders. These helplines are free to call from all phones. Adult Helpline: 0808 801 0677, Studentline: 0808 801 0811, Youthline: 0808 801 0711. www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk Anorexia & Bulimia Care: ABC provide on-going care, emotional support and practical guidance for anyone affected by eating disorders, those struggling personally and parents, families and friends. Helpline: 03000 11 12 13. www.anorexiabulimiacare.org.uk/ Students Against Depression is a website for students who are depressed, have a low mood or are having suicidal thoughts. Bullying UK is a website for both children and adults affected by bullying studentsagainstdepression.org Speaking to the Manchester Evening News he said: “My only regret is that we didn’t know and recognise how serious it was. “The discussion about people talking to each other is incredibly relevant, particularly to young men who don’t speak about their troubles. “I would encourage anybody to support Papyrus, I just wanted to almost anonymously do it to help, it’s a smaller charity that’s not as well known. “£10 helps somebody on the end of the phone so with the money we’ve raised, if that’s something that helps even one person it's worth it." Visit the Papyrus website for more details about the charity's work. Helplines and websites Samaritans (116 123) samaritans.org operates a 24-hour service available every day of the year. If you prefer to write down how you’re feeling, or if you’re worried about being overheard on the phone, you can email Samaritans at jo@samaritans.org , write to Freepost RSRB-KKBY-CYJK, PO Box 9090, STIRLING, FK8 2SA and visit www.samaritans.org/branches to find your nearest branch. For support for people feeling suicidal, if you are concerned about someone or if you are bereaved by suicide see http://shiningalightonsuicide.org.uk CALM (0800 58 58 58) thecalmzone.net has a helpline is for men who are down or have hit a wall for any reason, who need to talk or find information and support. They're open 5pm to midnight, 365 days a year. Childline (0800 1111 ) runs a helpline for children and young people in the UK. Calls are free and the number won’t show up on your phone bill. PAPYRUS (0800 068 41 41) is a voluntary organisation supporting teenagers and young adults who are feeling suicidal. Beat Eating Disorders: Beat provides helplines for adults and young people offering support and information about eating disorders. These helplines are free to call from all phones. Adult Helpline: 0808 801 0677, Studentline: 0808 801 0811, Youthline: 0808 801 0711. www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk Anorexia & Bulimia Care: ABC provide on-going care, emotional support and practical guidance for anyone affected by eating disorders, those struggling personally and parents, families and friends. Helpline: 03000 11 12 13. www.anorexiabulimiacare.org.uk/ Students Against Depression is a website for students who are depressed, have a low mood or are having suicidal thoughts. Bullying UK is a website for both children and adults affected by bullying studentsagainstdepression.org For information and links to charities and organisations that can help with substance abuse, visit https://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/drugs/

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